We have all been told that we first need to forgive in order to move on from betrayal & other acts of evil committed upon us.
As we know, this is not easy, not easy at all!
When you have been badly hurt by betrayal delivered in the guise of love, you have suffered on many levels beyond normal comprehension. It’s a mind, body & soul blow!
An act deliberately perpetrated on you by a loved one is extremely damaging. You have your love for them used against you.
This is no different from most harmful acts against humanity. Acts against humanity hurt us all but, acts against us by a loved one is the ultimate cruelty. Someone you trust has broken you. Someone you called a friend has betrayed you. Someone you valued has devalued you!
It is like hurting an animal that you befriend then mistreat! Have you ever seen your dog bound up to you with nothing but, joy & love in their hearts.Only to be growled at or ignored. See their eyes!
A small child raises it’s arms to you for comfort but, you turn & ignore them.That’s really cruel & the unsuspecting loving child is left confused & bereft. What did they do wrong, nothing! See their eye’s!
The ignorant & cruel perpetrator did the wrong! By failing to acknowledge the reciprocation of love in all it’s forms! From a wildly wagging tail to a huge smile on a child’s face. To the ultimate betrayal of love & all it holds dear.
So, how do you forgive this?Hmm…
Firstly your trust was won over with falsities. Secondly your betrayer portrayed a lover, friend or protector. Thirdly & most importantly, you would never dream of doing such a thing to anyone!
I often found myself sinking into an ocean of despair as, I tried to fathom such betrayal, dishonesty & callousness.
As I sat watching the waves crash over my head, I realized that forgiveness was like fighting for breath.
I pushed painfully to the ocean surface from the bottom of the sea bed & broke the surface with a great urgency for air, a gasp for survival!
Waves still crashed & the fight to stay afloat was extremely hard, tiring & I had to tread for many hours until I could float & rest!
Finally choppy sea’s abated to calmer sea’s & whilst you can never forget act’s of betrayal, you must learn to breathe in forgiveness. This does not exonerate the perpetrator, far from it. It releases you from them & their deeds against you.
You can choose to sit in the depths of your ocean or you can start swimming to the surface. You know if you stay at the bottom you will inevitably drown in a sea of regret, pain, anger, revenge & self pity. That would be the biggest, wildest, murkiest ocean of all!
You do not accept what someone has done but, you learn to forgive them their inability to have the deep self reflection, sense of their deeds & their need to destroy. There will always be evil & the sun shines on all & rain falls on all. Good & Bad!
The difference is, that we can feel the warmth of the sun with appreciation & that the rain signifies regrowth & rebirth. The tides roll in & out by the pull of the moon & we learn to forgive
So, that we can continue to roll on. We sink but, we rise over & over & forgive in order to breathe!
Surviving A Disordered Mind. 
I am still wearing my floaties, and it sucks, but I am hanging in there, floating, breathing, sometimes hyperventalting, but at least I am in the water. Off the oasis (my bed).
Hi there 🙂
I am so glad you are still afloat.
Love & Light Always xoxo
As I am you, 👯
I will check email tonight so, hope your there? xoxo
Use this one, I had to change, if not i email you.
Forgiveness is good for your soul 🙂 You have too much inner sunshine not to forgive.
I also think ‘try not to judge yourself by others’ you don’t know what is going on in their lives. You might say ‘I wouldn’t do that’, but that is making judgement for your normal.
Say for example, a sociopath, their behaviour might be appalling – but it is just the way that they are – a mental condition (people say it isn’t but of course it is, if it wasn’t why would they all follow the same patterns?)
On a different note – say me – I am sure that plenty of people made judgement of me, which to me seems odd, as they are not me, or haven’t been where I have been. Indeed might not go where I have to go, we are all different, on different pathways and different journeys. The only judgement we can have really, is the judgement that we have for ourselves.
Everyone’s normal is different. Dependent on where they are at 🙂 🙂
I do know at spiritualist church they always said ‘how you react to what is said and done to you, is your karma, how others react to what is said and done to them – is theirs’ …. I think that is kind of true!! x
Thank You Positivagirl 🙂
I too try not to judge others & I step back & think what judgments have been indoctrinated into me via my upbringing & a western society perception of the world at large.
I agree with you re Sociopath’s that, they are disturbed characters mentally as many folk in general are & ‘what’s the benchmark & what is normal?’.
I always think that other’s may view me as ‘different’ or ‘quirky’just because, I probably am.
The more I have learned from my journey the more ‘quirky’ & ‘different’ I have become.
With awareness comes a whole new view of the world & life in general.
I think in your situation with your blog that people had a ‘picture’ of you formed in blog land but, it’s like when you get to see the person behind that ‘picture’.It’s not what you had perceived. Like meeting an actor when not in character. Does that make sense.
You are a real person & that is most important so, your ‘normal’ is good. 🙂
With Sociopath’s, Narcissist’s etc…I sort of think they are like wild beasts we try to tame but, when they revert to their natural instinct’s they can be lethal.
Karma for me applies to everyone but, I don’t think ‘bad luck’ is part of it. I think life just happens & random acts of evil & kindness occur concurrently everywhere & yes, how you choose to react is imperative to your journey whilst here. Forgiveness allows you to shine & walk with a purpose to overcome whatever has hurt you. Love &Light to you xoxo 🙂
Oh… what is MFB Commander?
Metropolitan Fire Brigade.
🙂 🙂 🙂
I was exactly who you thought I was.
I just …. went off the track for a while.
x
I know 🙂 but, I don’t think everyone else had the same connection as we did.
I am so very pleased you are back on track & I will be at any stops you need to make along the way?
I’m a stopping all stations passenger not express 😉
🙂 xoxo lul 😉